But already we have made a prison for them. When
we first meet them, and we believe that we have
found the right person for our script, we may
feel great happiness, and may be "in
love". If our judgement is not too bad, and
the person is happy with the lines, then things
may go smoothly. But if our judgement is bad,
then we have a case of infatuation. The person is
not the right person for the script, and we have
fallen for an illusion. This is a difference
between infatuation and love. Love is based on
knowledge; it has a clear sight. Love sees
clearly because it is not tainted with the
personal desires of the self. It does not deceive
itself. Even if our judgement is not too bad, our
love is really conditional on the person giving
us what we want. This will not go on forever. At
some time the person will throw away the script.
Then what do we do? Maybe get a divorce or like
you, get another girlfriend. Or maybe we accept
that the other person has their own needs too.
This is acceptance. This is the beginning of true
love and the foundation of compassion and mercy.
Tsia Tung: What you describe
as love is hard to find.
Fu Hsiang: In this earthly realm
it is, for the soul surrenders this quality in
acquiring the will to power. For many people,
what they call love is not love at all, but the
desire to possess. True love is an invitation to
return to the mode of consciousness that we enjoy
between lives.
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